About ten years ago I had a series of set backs which meant I had to rely on my own skills to get back up again.
I drifted for a few years just going to work but without any regard for the future. About five years ago I came across goal setting. I don't remember where i got it from as I had not met anyone who ad done it.
I developed the idea of having a six month plan. It was fairly mundane. I would put the items on a list putting some minor thing in for each month. These were physical things that needed doing around the house. We had moved int a new house and the house needed completely redecorating.
I was not able to do it all at once or continuosly from room to room so I set up a goal setting programme which goes on today. each month I would put something in it to be done. None of the physical things did I do myself as I was too busy earning enough to pay for the work to be done.
It has taken just under three years and now the house is in good condition. We still have a six month plan as we are now going round to put in any improvements as it is a continuous job.
We would put in the plan hopes for holidays and other events. We published it by printing it and putting it on the side of the fridge. This would cause hilarity amongst the non believers that is our friends and relatives. This hilarity subsided as every time they come to see us we have made considerable progress.
No one has copied this idea which doesn't surprise me as most people have no direction or determination to make any change to their situation.
I have learnt one thing in the last few years. People say they want to get on and tell you how hard they work. This is not however reflected in what they actually do.
If you have a casual acquaintance with a lot of people which we all do you can be deluded into thinking that most people you know are hard working diligent and striving towards some goal or other. On much closer inspection apart from some youngsters setting off in life most of us are drifting along. Most people I know spend most of their lives thinking about and planning their next holiday or car purchase than they do about the directing of their lives.
There is nothing wrong with this but they have blind assumption that regardless of what they do things will turn out OK. Most people are pinning their hopes on winning the lottery. They seriously think this is the only way that their situation will improve.
Coming to terms with what people think of you
A recent quote I came across a great quote which I have put on the front of my diary
Give a lot of time to the improvement of yourself , then there is no time to criticise others.
I always felt inadeqaute regardles of how much I did. It is very liberating if in fact you spend your time on your own self improvement rather than thinkng abut what others think. The good thing about this course of action is that it is more than a full time job. It is so time consuming that you have no spare time.
At the moment I have three main areas that I am trying to improve being my business ventures, writing as in books and yoga as in getting more supple and fit.
Business I do every day, writing I do most days and yoga I do formally three times a week. My yoga teacher unasked said that he thought I was coming on. That was good news as when I started about nine months ago I felt like a cripple as there were so many in the class that were very supple indeed.
He tells us that yoga is not competitive and that we can all do different things. I can't touch my toes or do a forward bend. I cannot sit on my heels but I am getting better at that.
I feel as though I am doing better and it is less of a strain. He tells you not to strain but I try and push it a little bit further each time. I have never felt stiff after yoga but I have broken into a sweat whilst doing it. I wll know that I have succeeded when I can do a full hour of yoga and not look at the clock. I can now get to about 45 minutes before I start to look forward to the end.
Because goal setting is all about our own self improvement you do not have to worry about anyone else. I now have little regard for what other people think of me and it is a liberating experience.
We have been conditioned to only think of others and then we get hurt when we hear their harsh opinions. I now try to think that their opinons do not count. They will not help you when you are down, that is your job and they will not care much when you are up.
It is a hurtful experience when you feel that you have been unjustly criticised. It happens to all of us so we have to move away from realiance on others an others opinions of us.
When I was down I did not invite help from anyone else and I did not get it. In fact apart from some very close friends most people would not have known my position.
So liberate yourself today. take responsbility for yourself , live for the present and deal with your own problems
MEDITATION
Give a lot of time to the improvement of yourself , then there is no time to criticise others.
I always felt inadeqaute regardles of how much I did. It is very liberating if in fact you spend your time on your own self improvement rather than thinkng abut what others think. The good thing about this course of action is that it is more than a full time job. It is so time consuming that you have no spare time.
At the moment I have three main areas that I am trying to improve being my business ventures, writing as in books and yoga as in getting more supple and fit.
Business I do every day, writing I do most days and yoga I do formally three times a week. My yoga teacher unasked said that he thought I was coming on. That was good news as when I started about nine months ago I felt like a cripple as there were so many in the class that were very supple indeed.
He tells us that yoga is not competitive and that we can all do different things. I can't touch my toes or do a forward bend. I cannot sit on my heels but I am getting better at that.
I feel as though I am doing better and it is less of a strain. He tells you not to strain but I try and push it a little bit further each time. I have never felt stiff after yoga but I have broken into a sweat whilst doing it. I wll know that I have succeeded when I can do a full hour of yoga and not look at the clock. I can now get to about 45 minutes before I start to look forward to the end.
Because goal setting is all about our own self improvement you do not have to worry about anyone else. I now have little regard for what other people think of me and it is a liberating experience.
We have been conditioned to only think of others and then we get hurt when we hear their harsh opinions. I now try to think that their opinons do not count. They will not help you when you are down, that is your job and they will not care much when you are up.
It is a hurtful experience when you feel that you have been unjustly criticised. It happens to all of us so we have to move away from realiance on others an others opinions of us.
When I was down I did not invite help from anyone else and I did not get it. In fact apart from some very close friends most people would not have known my position.
So liberate yourself today. take responsbility for yourself , live for the present and deal with your own problems
MEDITATION
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